During a 2024 commencement address, Kansas City Chiefs kicker Harrison Butker sparked controversy by stating that one of the most important titles a woman can have is “homemaker.” As a young, college-educated woman myself, I wish someone had shared that wisdom with me years ago.
Graduating from Fordham University in 2020 with a degree in International Political Economy, I believed that pursuing a successful career was the key to fulfillment. However, despite achieving various professional milestones, I realized that my true desire was to have a family – something I couldn’t achieve independently.
During my college years, there was a strong emphasis on female independence. We were encouraged to focus on our careers, rise to the top, and not rely on a man for success. The idea of being a “boss b-tch” who could have it all was drilled into us. But I soon realized that this mindset was not conducive to overall happiness.
While I value my career, I also regret prioritizing it over other aspects of my life, including relationships that could lead to marriage and family. I have come to understand that women don’t need to emulate men to find value and fulfillment. We possess unique qualities, instincts, and abilities that make us invaluable.
I am grateful for the opportunities my career has provided, but I have also come to appreciate the importance of traditional roles like being a wife and mother. Butker’s remarks were not intended to discourage women from pursuing their passions but to remind us of our innate abilities and purpose.
As someone who has experienced the consequences of prioritizing career over family, I now see the value in embracing traditional roles while pursuing my passion for truth and country. Women have the power to create life and nurture in a way that men cannot. It is essential not to sacrifice this purpose for temporary validation from a career.
